Coming out on Facebook

In honor of National Infertility Awareness Week, I came out as an infertile on Facebook this morning. Funny how being 8 months pregnant makes coming out a little bit easier…

Here was the post:

It’s hard to believe that we are nearly 8 months into a healthy rainbow pregnancy! Thinking of my sisters and brothers still in the infertility trenches on this National Infertility Awareness Week.–friends/infertility-etiquette.html


I haven’t really felt like chronicling my pregnancy on this blog, but please know that I have been thinking of you all often (and reading/crying/celebrating along with you).

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  1. Missing you, my dear…and wow- 8 months! Where did the time go?

  2. Canadian NIAW is at the end of May (around my due date!) and I plan to “come out” then too.

    Nice to hear from you!

  3. husker1

     /  August 13, 2014

    knalani- Do you mind sharing if you did in fact take the DHEA and did it help? Looking for some evidence on DHEA and ran across your post on it. Great research on your behalf btw.

    • Forgive me for copying and pasting parts of my answer from another comment…

      Yes, I did take DHEA, for the three months preceding our spontaneous conception.

      Did it help? To tell you the truth, I have no idea. The science behind it is quite thin (see: There’s also a lot to say for random chance (I wrote about that here: Since becoming pregnant, I’ve also come to believe that prayer may have played a role, as one of the most common responses I heard from people who learned of our pregnancy is, “a lot of prayers went into that!”

      Maybe a more revealing question is, ‘what do I plan to do when we’re ready to try for #2?’…And the answer is: All of the above. As soon as I’m done breastfeeding (well, pumping anyhow), I intend to start taking the whole laundry list of supplements (wheatgrass juice and nanogreens and all); if I can find the time as a new mom, I’ll exercise and go to acupuncture; I’ll chart and use OPKs and my CBFM to time intercourse every month (to give us as many chances as possible); and C and I will ask our friends and family for their prayers and well-wishes…

      And then we’ll try our best to strike a balance between being hopeful for another, and intensely grateful for the miracle we’ve already been blessed with…

      Hope that helps!

  4. husker1

     /  August 14, 2014

    Thanks for the response. 🙂 For me the debate is whether the benefits will out- weigh the potential damages. I have Hashimoto’s which is an autoimmune thyroid condition. I have been told that the reason I am not getting pregnant is because of this autoimmune condition. I have recently been consulting with a Reproductive Immunologist. My DHEA serum levels were on the low end of range, which makes me want to try DHEA supplementation. My RI agrees that I can try it but will retest the DHEA and Testosterone levels. However I have read on blogs and groups that many women with immune issues have a bad reaction to the DHEA and it is an immune activator which women like me don’t want. Have you ever run across any information like this in your research? If so would love to read about it. 🙂 Thanks again for your response.

    • Unfortunately, I don’t have any more information. I focused my research on my own condition – diminished ovarian reserve – and ignored pretty much everything else… Best of luck to you. Nothing about infertility treatment is easy!

  5. husker1

     /  August 14, 2014

    thanks!!! I do have DOR as well which is why I found your post very interesting! 🙂

  6. Pauline

     /  August 19, 2014

    Your posts has given me so much to hope for. My husband and I have gone through so much disappointment trying to conceive and I pray that this coming round will be “it” for us. We pretty much have the same prognosis – DOR, started with hi-stim, IUIs, two rounds of IVF that was halted due to low or no response to drugs. We are now trying this round with the same meds you were on — BCPs, androgen patch, clomid, and menopur. I’d love to hear from you… can you email me when you have a moment?


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