15 weeks, C’s Birthday and SoCal IVF Clinics on the radio

Today marks 15 weeks along for this pregnancy. It feels good to be well out of the first trimester, but also a bit anticlimactic, since we know all too well that it doesn’t guarantee a healthy baby at the end.

This is one of those thoughts that I have frequently, but generally try to keep to myself so as not to bum everybody out. For example, last weekend, at a kid birthday party, I met another mom of a three-year-old. Shortly after establishing that we were both expecting babies this fall, she made a seemingly innocuous observation, “Isn’t pregnancy so much less stressful the second time around? The first time I was worried about everything, but this time, I just get to relax and enjoy it.”

I felt like I was in a sitcom where I can picture the outcome of either possible response:

“Well, actually, this is my fourth pregnancy; most recently, my daughter was stillborn at 41 weeks last July, so no, I don’t actually feel less stressed this time around.”

Um. Probably not the best way to make a new friend.

<<<SCREECH!!! Rewinding video footage…>>>

“Isn’t pregnancy so much less stressful the second time around?…”

“Mmm hmm. C. Samuel keeps us very busy this time around.”

It wasn’t technically a lie, but it also didn’t drop a giant shit on the day of someone who was just trying to make polite conversation at a kids’ party.


In other news, C. Samuel turned 3 last week. Here are some obligatory cute pics from last weekend:


Happy boy at his birthday party, wearing his “birthday hat”


Riding his new bike on the boardwalk


Sharing his toys with Jane on Memorial Day


Lastly, while driving home today from Discount Tires, I got sucked into an episode of Reveal on my local public radio station, and ended up sitting in my carport for 40 minutes to hear the rest.


I don’t understand why my tire blew out yesterday?! (C. took this pic of one of my ‘good’ tires, post blowout…)

The episode was about a highly suspicious IVF clinic in LA, and talked about the issue of inflating SART stats, in particular by putting in two or more embryos in young (under 35-years-old) moms without a prior history of failed IVF cycles.

The story certainly wasn’t perfect. (Most notably, I didn’t feel like they fully considered the financial pressures on couples that choose a multiple embryo transfer on their first try.) But it hit on several important ethical concerns that arise as a result of trying to sell services for something so emotionally-charged, expensive, and with such an uncertain outcome.

I also liked the fact that in the radio version (though not in the written article), they presented the head RE at our IVF clinic, Reproductive Partners, as a model of ethical practice (not that it applied to us, since we never made it transfer).

Here’s a written version of the story: